Having a kid has helped us to live in the present. Mo and I started this blog to have fun, and memorialize the mundane moments that make life grand. Those moments, however, have made it nearly impossible to write. Life is busy. We wake up early, I run to the gym, come home to make coffee and breakfast while Mo feeds our kiddo, and then we start our days.
Many of you know that we moved from Washington, D.C. to Austin, Texas last year. Mo had a unique opportunity to work on a great project with the Austin Independent School District. I had the amazing opportunity of supporting her this year by becoming the lead parent while managing a few very cool projects. Those projects allowed me to work from home, travel less, and spend more time with Emma which freed up Mo to do a deep dive into her work. I have learned so much about life, love, and priorities during this time.
For personal reasons, we wanted to avoid daycare and nannies for the first two years of Emma’s life. This has required us to be intentional about our time together. Part of this intentionality included scheduled dates. Being busy has made marriage even more fun. To accomplish a night of drinks, dinner, and dancing we need a babysitter. Also, scheduling a day around a date means that we probably won’t see each other until it’s time to go out. It feels like we’re in upper school and I’m trying to make time to see the object of my puppy love. These dates have helped me become a better partner, father, and business person. I want to quickly explore those avenues.
Women in the workforce are under so much unfair additional stress. Emma breastfed for 9 months. To provide nourishment for our child Mo had to schedule 25 minutes into her morning sets of meetings, pump during lunch, and find ways to pump during her afternoon office hours. I never even considered how difficult it must be for women who travel often for work to be away from their young children or how many accommodations they must make to make those trips possible. These realizations have helped me to see Mo more clearly for who she really is: a queen, a rock, and an unbreakable force to be reckoned with. I’m lucky she’s on my side.
I never thought I would be a dad. I just figured I would be a cool uncle who never settled down and had all of my paternal instincts satiated by living vicariously through my sister. When we decided to grow our family it was because we both felt like we had so much love that we wanted to share and we were grateful that we were able to share that with another person. We were fortunate to have 3 months each of maternity and paternity leave. For logistical reasons, we opted to use our time together. During our leave is when I realized how useless dads are in the early stages of a child’s life. Mom wakes up to feed, mom makes the milk, and mom has to adjust to having a new body. Being at home with Emma helped me to learn how to meet her needs, discover ways to assist Mo, and understand how to be the person I need to be to help give our child every advantage in life.
This may sound wild to you, but being so busy has helped me to become more efficient. To meet deadlines, create work product, and farm new business I have to ensure that I am maximizing my time. This necessity has kept me off ESPN during “office hours” and given me the focus I should have developed in graduate school. Also, I have a family who needs me, so I only accept work that is profitable and is something that I am comfortable being apart of the legacy she sees.
We have a lot of exciting things happening in our lives, and we’re extremely busy. But we started this blog to have fun, and memorialize the mundane moments that make life grand. And we’re going to have fun sharing lots of fun news when the time is right.